Here are 8 critical questions that, if you reflect on and answer them from a very authentic place deep within you, will guide you to your best life imaginable.
1) TIME: What do you really want to do with your time?
Look at your plans for today, this week, this month, this year? Does the way you’re spending your time fit with your longterm goals and dreams in your life? Unless you start tweaking your schedule, bit by bit, to honour those things that REALLY matter, you won’t be able to create the life of your dreams.
2) RELATIONSHIPS: Who do you really want to spend time with, who really adds to your life?
We’re creatures of habit, often we spend time with the same people simply because that’s what we’ve always done. The people around you mold you into what you’re becoming, right now. If you’re spending time with someone, think about it – would you want to become more like them, or not? If not, be conscious of the amount of precious time you spend with that person, and also look for some people to spend time with, who are closer to who you would like to be one day.
3) ACTIVITIES: What do you want to do more of? 4) What do you want to do less of?
Make a list of each of these two categories. Now, look at your schedule for the week or month, and see what you could delete and add, based on your answers to these two questions.
4) HEALTH: What’s the one big health change you could make that would make the most difference to your quality of life?
Once you’ve decided what that is, what is a way that you could start to make this change, in a way that would be enjoyable and realistic for you? Dramatic changes that require a lot of sacrifice or pain generally won’t work.
5) SELF-IMAGE AND CONCEPT: Who do you want to become in the next year? 7) What do you want to change about yourself the most?
Imagine yourself 12 months from now – who would you like to be? More importantly, what steps would you have to take between now and then, to become that new you? Would you need to take a course, take a risk, take a trip…what do you need to do?
6) PURPOSE: If you could choose to get one thing out of this year, what would it be?
How do you feel when you wake up in the morning? Are you enthusiastic about your days? I used to have to drag myself out of bed, when I was “off-purpose”, doing things that didn’t fit with my personality, sense of meaning, or best skills and passions. Now that I’ve found my purpose, which is inspiring and helping others to live happier, healthier more fulfilling lives, I love my work so much that I have to force myself to get enough sleep and stop and eat and play!
7) VALUES AND PRIORITIES: If you suddenly found out this was the last year of your life, what would you do?
(Besides racking up your credit card – BTW that is not an appropriate answer!) Who would you spend time with? What would you spend your time doing? Begin to incorporate these very things, into your life now, if you want to live a life without regrets.
8) VALUES & PRIORITIES: What have you been putting off for “Someday” that you could do, instead, this year? Or this week?
The next time you hear yourself saying “yes, we should really do that,” or “I’d love to do that, someday”, find a way NOW to start doing it, even in the smallest of ways. Don’t say to a friend that you must get together more and then forget about it – plan that lunch now, even if it’ll be months from now.
Make it happen, or life will pass you by. And no one likes that feeling! Even if you feel you’ve spent your life letting it pass you by, it’s never too late to make a start. In fact, I’d bet that right now is the perfect time for you.
Doctor Susan Biali, M.D